{"product_id":"2940012811080","title":"Getting Them Sober: Vol 4 : Separations and Healings","description":"If you're in the process of separating\/\/ getting a divorce -----  OR thinking about it  -----  this book describes the usually-not-spoken-about HIDDEN issues that the non-alcoholic spouse is confronted with---   when going through this with an alcoholic.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eChapters titles include ----\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    * Everybody blames the family\u003cbr\u003e    * Don't try to make sense out of their nonsense\u003cbr\u003e    * Knowing that it's hard to lose an alcoholic, helps us to calm down and keep us on the recovery path\u003cbr\u003e    * The irregular behavior of the alcoholic keeps us attached\u003cbr\u003e    * The alcoholic does not exist separately from the alcoholism\u003cbr\u003e    * Excited misery keeps us attached to the alcoholic\u003cbr\u003e    * Our need to caretake keeps us attached to the alcoholic\u003cbr\u003e    * Facing our illusions ends their power to hurt us\u003cbr\u003e    * Quick ways to detach\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I had to stop 'being so strong' so I could get the help I needed\"\u003cbr\u003e    * Remember the facts\u003cbr\u003e    * It's YOUR decision whether or not to separate---- it's not your counselor's decision\u003cbr\u003e    * Perfectionism\u003cbr\u003e    * Courage to change the things we can\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I was able to decide to leave, even though he was sober and I was physically ill\"\u003cbr\u003e    * Share your story with discretion\u003cbr\u003e    * What are examples of crazymaking that counselors should inherently know in order for us to trust their advice-giving?\u003cbr\u003e    * \"How counseling helped me decide\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"But he looks so good since we're separated. Maybe he's not an alcoholic?\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"But he's drinking less since we're separated. Can he be getting better?\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I can't stop being angry with him!\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"When I see my alcoholic husband and he's nice to me, I get upset!\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I can't forgive him\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"My denial, my compassion, and my guilt pulled me down into it with him, again\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I've dropped the divorce proceedings six times, now\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I feel guilty because I think I didn't do enough to make him want to be sober\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"I left a sober alcoholic\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"If I give up obsession, do I have to give up hope?\"\u003cbr\u003e    * \"How can I help him after we're separated?\"\u003cbr\u003e    * What are the real problems about dating again?\u003cbr\u003e    * Answering your legal questions about alcoholism, divorce, children, and court-ordered evaluations\u003cbr\u003e    * Intervention\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTOBY DREWS' OTHER BOOKS---------\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"Getting Them Sober, volume one\" ----------- Hundreds of practical and effective suggestions for sobriety and recovery.   With over a million copies sold, largely by word-of-mouth----- this book is endorsed by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, by 'dear Abby' (who said ''this book should be read by everyone''), and by Melody Beattie (author of Codependent No More) --  who said \"'Getting Them Sober' is the BEST book for the family of the still-drinking alcoholic.'' \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOther books in this award-winning series are --------\u003cbr\u003e\"Getting Them Sober, volume 2\" (more on total family healing) \u003cbr\u003e\"Getting Them Sober, volume 3'' (half the book details the 350 secondary diseases \/\/ disorders to alcoholism) \u003cbr\u003e\"Getting Your Children Sober\" (for parents of children ages 9 to 59 who have addiction problems)   \u003cbr\u003e\"Sex \u0026amp; the Sober Alcoholic\"\u003cbr\u003e\"Get Rid of Anxiety and Stress''\u003cbr\u003e\"Getting Them Sober Action Guide''","brand":"Recovery Communications, Inc.","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47158280093936,"sku":"2940012811080","price":7.2,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/7593\/9824\/files\/2940012811080_p0.jpg?v=1763572907","url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/2940012811080","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}