{"product_id":"2940014050357","title":"How To Build Your Self Esteem","description":"What is self esteem? The expression was first used\u003cbr\u003eby William James in 1890. This American\u003cbr\u003epsychologist and philosopher said that self esteem\u003cbr\u003eis ‘one’s mental perception of (his) qualities, not\u003cbr\u003ephysical features’\u003cbr\u003eWith the growth in the social sciences and popular\u003cbr\u003eculture from the 1950’s onwards, concepts like\u003cbr\u003e‘self esteem’ have become more widely discussed,\u003cbr\u003enot only within the profession of psychology but\u003cbr\u003emore generally within western society which has\u003cbr\u003ebecome increasingly focused on the individual.\u003cbr\u003eThere are various definitions of self esteem, but\u003cbr\u003ein essence, it is the value we place on ourselves\u003cbr\u003eas individuals and in relation to others. Maurice\u003cbr\u003eRosenberg in the 1960s said that self esteem can\u003cbr\u003ebe self tested. This period of the development of\u003cbr\u003esocial sciences saw the development of ‘testing’\u003cbr\u003eand ‘measuring’ methods which enabled more\u003cbr\u003eempirical studies to be carried out. Previously\u003cbr\u003emost of the social scientists were known primarily\u003cbr\u003efor their theoretical work.\u003cbr\u003eThe other shift is that whereas previously the goal\u003cbr\u003ewas to measure self esteem, it is now the goal to\u003cbr\u003eachieve the right level of self esteem.\u003cbr\u003eIf our self esteem is too low, we are seeing\u003cbr\u003eourselves as less valuable than those around us.\u003cbr\u003eSo we are encouraged to improve our self esteem in\u003cbr\u003eorder to become more confident, happier, and better\u003cbr\u003eable to lead a full and rewarding life.\u003cbr\u003eIf our self esteem is too high, we are probably\u003cbr\u003esuffering from ‘unearned’ esteem, and see ourselves\u003cbr\u003eas better than those around us. This has been\u003cbr\u003eassociated with bullying, violence and aggression\u003cbr\u003eto others.\u003cbr\u003eSo getting our self esteem level right, is to have\u003cbr\u003ea sense of self worth that is not reliant on\u003cbr\u003eindividual events or achievements. It is not about\u003cbr\u003ebeing better than or superior to others. A healthy\u003cbr\u003elevel of self esteem is linked to respect for\u003cbr\u003eourselves but importantly, having respect for\u003cbr\u003eothers. A good and healthy level of self esteem\u003cbr\u003ewill enable us to cope with disappointments and\u003cbr\u003ecriticisms. It also enables us to attempt new\u003cbr\u003echallenges, to seek out new relationships, and to\u003cbr\u003ework towards our futures with a level of confidence\u003cbr\u003eand belief in our abilities.\u003cbr\u003eSelf esteem is not just about being good at one or\u003cbr\u003etwo things. For example, a pianist may feel very\u003cbr\u003econfident of their musical ability. They may feel\u003cbr\u003econfident performing in front of an audience.\u003cbr\u003eHowever they may lack self esteem when it comes to\u003cbr\u003etheir ability to maintain a good relationship with\u003cbr\u003etheir partner, or in their ability to make\u003cbr\u003edecisions outside of their work in music.\u003cbr\u003eFrom a scientific point of view, the subject of\u003cbr\u003eself esteem is only part of the understanding of\u003cbr\u003ethe human individual, how our mental maps operate,\u003cbr\u003eand how to help people achieve their potential and\u003cbr\u003eavoid suffering and mental illness.\u003cbr\u003eFrom the point of view of educationalists, the\u003cbr\u003erelationship between self esteem and academic or\u003cbr\u003eeducational success is important. This is\u003cbr\u003eparticularly the case for understanding where\u003cbr\u003eindividual children or young adults are under\u003cbr\u003eachieving or having difficulty in getting on with\u003cbr\u003etheir peers. Schools are under increasing pressure\u003cbr\u003eto assess the needs of children in terms of areas\u003cbr\u003ethat would previously have been seen as parental\u003cbr\u003eresponsibility. Some children have a difficult\u003cbr\u003elife at home, and have to deal with major events\u003cbr\u003esuch as divorce, family illness, lack of parental\u003cbr\u003elove and support, and situations like moving home\u003cbr\u003eand leaving behind friends or relations. Many\u003cbr\u003echildren have to cope with bereavement, parental\u003cbr\u003eillness, poverty, ignorance and being surrounded by\u003cbr\u003epeople with low self esteem. Their chances of\u003cbr\u003egrowing to be happy, healthy young adults, with\u003cbr\u003econfidence in themselves and their futures are\u003cbr\u003etherefore reduced.\u003cbr\u003eAnother social change that involves an evaluation\u003cbr\u003eof self esteem is the drive towards equality of\u003cbr\u003ewoman. Only 60 years ago it was unusual for a\u003cbr\u003ewoman to expect to be considered equal to men in\u003cbr\u003ethe job market place. Of course there were\u003cbr\u003eexceptions, and famous women doctors, scientists,\u003cbr\u003eentrepreneurs etc. During the second world war\u003cbr\u003ewomen filled the jobs vacated by men going to\u003cbr\u003efight, but generally were encouraged to leave when\u003cbr\u003ethe men returned. The development of the social\u003cbr\u003esciences after the Second World War saw a large\u003cbr\u003eincrease of women in higher education and\u003cbr\u003ethereafter in employment.\u003cbr\u003eHowever, there is still a view that women are under\u003cbr\u003eachieving in the world of commerce, senior\u003cbr\u003emanagement, science and the glass ceiling still\u003cbr\u003eeffectively limits the progression of women.\u003cbr\u003eWomen are constantly bombarded with aspirational\u003cbr\u003ematerial. 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