{"product_id":"2940016094182","title":"Marriage and Love","description":"MARRIAGE AND LOVE\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe popular notion about marriage and love is that they are synonymous,\u003cbr\u003ethat they spring from the same motives, and cover the same human needs.\u003cbr\u003eLike most popular notions this also rests not on actual facts, but on\u003cbr\u003esuperstition.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMarriage and love have nothing in common; they are as far apart as the\u003cbr\u003epoles; are, in fact, antagonistic to each other. No doubt some marriages\u003cbr\u003ehave been the result of love. Not, however, because love could assert\u003cbr\u003eitself only in marriage; much rather is it because few people can\u003cbr\u003ecompletely outgrow a convention. There are today large numbers of men\u003cbr\u003eand women to whom marriage is naught but a farce, but who submit to it\u003cbr\u003efor the sake of public opinion. At any rate, while it is true that some\u003cbr\u003emarriages are based on love, and while it is equally true that in some\u003cbr\u003ecases love continues in married life, I maintain that it does so\u003cbr\u003eregardless of marriage, and not because of it.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOn the other hand, it is utterly false that love results from marriage.\u003cbr\u003eOn rare occasions one does hear of a miraculous case of a married couple\u003cbr\u003efalling in love after marriage, but on close examination it will be\u003cbr\u003efound that it is a mere adjustment to the inevitable. Certainly the\u003cbr\u003egrowing-used to each other is far away from the spontaneity, the\u003cbr\u003eintensity, and beauty of love, without which the intimacy of marriage\u003cbr\u003emust prove degrading to both the woman and the man.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMarriage is primarily an economic arrangement, an insurance pact. It\u003cbr\u003ediffers from the ordinary life insurance agreement only in that it is\u003cbr\u003emore binding, more exacting. Its returns are insignificantly small\u003cbr\u003ecompared with the investments. In taking out an insurance policy one\u003cbr\u003epays for it in dollars and cents, always at liberty to discontinue\u003cbr\u003epayments. If, however, woman's premium is a husband, she pays for it\u003cbr\u003ewith her name, her privacy, her self-respect, her very life, \"until\u003cbr\u003edeath doth part.\" Moreover, the marriage insurance condemns her to\u003cbr\u003elife-long dependency, to parasitism, to complete uselessness, individual\u003cbr\u003eas well as social. Man, too, pays his toll, but as his sphere is wider,\u003cbr\u003emarriage does not limit him as much as woman. He feels his chains more\u003cbr\u003ein an economic sense.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThus Dante's motto over Inferno applies with equal force to marriage.\u003cbr\u003e\"Ye who enter here leave all hope behind.\"","brand":"SAP","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47174077382896,"sku":"2940016094182","price":0.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/2940016094182","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}