{"product_id":"2940151656078","title":"Master\/slave Relationships, Submission, and Slavery","description":"This collection of essays by BDSM educator Teramis examines Master\/slave relationships, and the distinctions between submission and slavery. This information is useful for novices to BDSM, while more experienced kinksters will find provocative food for thought in these pages. Teramis has over 30 years experience in the scene, has presented to the leather community throughout the U.S. and in Europe, and taught as adjunct faculty at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (San Francisco).\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCONTENTS\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIntroduction – Teramis\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eBDSM Defined: An Exploration of Adult Sexualities \u0026amp; Lifestyles\u003cbr\u003eThere are many styles of kink that people engage in, but they all have one thing in common: they are activities that take place between consenting adults. Contrary to stereotype, neither SM nor BDSM encompasses or condones abuse, nor do these activities necessarily relate to sex or sexuality, for that is not the exclusive realm in which BDSM plays out. This essay takes a look at what BDSM is, and what it is not.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Nature of Master\/slave (Owner\/property) Relationships\u003cbr\u003eThere seems to be a common pattern of misconceptions about Owner\/property relationships (also called \"Master\/slave\" relationships, although I have issues with that terminology) - and the nature of persons who become involved in consensual slavery as the slave. This essay looks at things unique to M\/s and its viability as a relationship style.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA Slave is Not a Submissive\u003cbr\u003eMany people think a slave is some kind of über-sub, someone far more submissive than the average submissive, beyond the pale of human norms and well into the doormat zone. Nothing could be further from the truth. This essay looks at key differences between sub and slave.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Does the Slave Get Out of It?\u003cbr\u003eIt's obvious what the dominant is getting in D\/s, right? Service. But as one correspondent once asked me, what does the slave get out of it? Here's my answer to that question.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTrust, Safety, and Surrender\u003cbr\u003eThese three elements are very interconnected and essential to achieving successful power exchange.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Need to Belong\u003cbr\u003eA personal musing on one of the driving forces for many persons' submission, my own included.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTeramis' Basic Rules of Engagement\u003cbr\u003eAdvice once asked and offered on a submissive's journey.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMailing List Links\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFor more information or to view an excerpt, see the book page at \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e* * *\u003cbr\u003eWhat People Say About Teramis' Content\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Teramis awes workshop participants with her depth of knowledge, psychological sophistication regarding D\/s relationships, and remarkable ability to communicate complex concepts in clear, accessible, and often delightfully entertaining ways.” ~Joy Davidson, Ph.D., Psychologist\/Author\/Advice Columnist\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“I just wanted to say thank you for the wonderful presentation that you gave this weekend on \"Trust, Safety \u0026amp; Surrender\". My subpuppy and I both attended…both of us had some really deep emotions come up during the presentation. You helped spark an important discussion by giving us reference points to start from in discussing things that have been on our minds and in our hearts. I thank you for it from the depth of my heart.”\u003cbr\u003e~- Lady MoonDance\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Teramis offers a fresh, realistic perspective on the power dynamics of D\/s relationships. Whether you've been playing two months or twenty years, you will find information and tools pertinent to creating tailor-made relationships that work.” ~ Catherine Gross\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Teramis is one of my favorite presenters. She is surprisingly fresh and honest each time she reviews an issue. Her ability to speak across gender and sexual roles allows her to offer pertinent and useful information. … incredibly honest and vulnerable…. an “advanced player” whom I respect and admire greatly. I attend her presentations whenever possible– WOOF!” ~ Master Steve, Butchmann’s SM Academy","brand":"D\/s Press","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47122600689904,"sku":"2940151656078","price":2.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/7593\/9824\/files\/2940151656078_p0.jpg?v=1764013606","url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/2940151656078","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}