{"product_id":"2940154385012","title":"You Have The Right Not To Make Your Parents Proud","description":"\u003cp\u003eThere are thousands of questions from young people on the Internet, who are uncertain whether they should prioritize their own needs and dreams, or do what their parents (families) want, or expect from them.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHow do I convince my parents to let me pursue my career in the fitness industry?\u003cbr\u003eHow will you break the news that you want to be an artist rather than a doctor? I have really non-cooperative parents who don’t understand.\u003cbr\u003eHow do you handle your parents once you're twenty years old, and they don't understand your choices in life?\u003cbr\u003eShould I follow my passion or my parents’ dream?\u003cbr\u003eHow can I convince my parents that I don't want to marry, without hurting them?\u003cbr\u003eIs it selfish of me to pursue my own path in life rather than the one my parents have worked hard to provide for me?\u003cbr\u003eWhat can I do when my dad makes his own plans about my future but I have my own?\u003cbr\u003eOur parents are not accepting our love. What should we do?\u003cbr\u003eI am a Muslim girl and I want to leave my religion. My parents will never talk to me. Do you think I should leave?\u003cbr\u003eI'm 13, and I want to be a magician, but my mom is completely against it. She takes my cards, and discourages me from doing magic. What should I do?\u003cbr\u003eShould I do what I want to do or what my parents want me to do?\u003cbr\u003eI don't want to go to college, but my parents want me to. What should I do?\u003cbr\u003eHow do you say no to your parents?\u003cbr\u003eHow do I deal with my parents expectations?\u003cbr\u003eMy parents control my life, they blackmail me and I am so unhappy with my life, what should I do?\u003cbr\u003eI want to start a career that my parents won't let me do. What should I do?\u003cbr\u003eHow do I convince my parents to let me become an actor?\u003cbr\u003eHow do I tell my dad that I don't want to follow in his career footsteps?\u003cbr\u003eI am 21 years old girl. I want to remain single throughout my life. My family wants me to live a married life. How do I convince them?\u003cbr\u003eIf you were to choose between family and freedom (of thoughts and action), what would you choose and why?\u003cbr\u003eHow do you keep your family from pressuring you into life and career decisions that you don't want to make?\u003cbr\u003eMy parents threatened to disown me if I don't pick a STEM major. How do I convince them otherwise?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThose are a few examples of the questions I answered on Quora in the past six months. If I wanted to answer them all, I guess I would need to write non stop for the next couple of years. And there are hundreds of those questions being added to this forum each day.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI noticed a pattern. Those who ask the questions worry that by making their independent life choices they will upset their parents or whole families.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTurns out even having thoughts about being different than your parents (most of your family) seems risky. The imprint you have since childhood, the beliefs you soaked up, the taboo aura - you can be 100% sure those things will make you feel bad about having those thoughts.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnd being different than your parents and other members of your family is way more dangerous. You might get rejected, disowned, kicked out. You run a great risk of being hated on. You become one of those bad people (traitors, black sheep). You as a person are a problem and a source of many problems. And that’s enough of a reason for you to feel guilty, or be ashamed of yourself.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBut why?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIs this fear of being different or even discussing problematic issues that arise in families all over the world something we should accept as inevitable? Should we watch as young adults, generation after generation, yield to the family pressure, because they lack coping mechanisms (alternative narratives)?\u003cbr\u003eCan’t we challenge those fears and beliefs? Why shouldn’t we do something in order to eliminate those fears and start living the lives we want?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThat’s why I decided to break this taboo and talk about things almost nobody talks about.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI'm confident that this book can change young people's lives, enabling them to live their lives the way they want, not the way their parents or other members of their families want.\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Lukasz Laniecki","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47103521652976,"sku":"2940154385012","price":2.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/7593\/9824\/files\/2940154385012_p0.jpg?v=1764066254","url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/2940154385012","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}