{"product_id":"2940169497861","title":"You're the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women's Friendships","description":"\u003cb\u003eThis warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 bestselling author of \u003ci\u003eYou Just Don't Understand \u003c\/i\u003ewill help women lean into these powerful relationships.\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women's friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor-or she can be all of these at once. She's seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.\u003cbr\u003e    \u003cbr\u003e In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and \u003ci\u003emis\u003c\/i\u003ecommunication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends-with the best intentions-can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen's signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e ¿ the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice-or just listen\u003cbr\u003e ¿ how women use talk to connect to friends-and to subtly compete\u003cbr\u003e ¿ how \"Fear of Being Left Out\" and \"Fear of Getting Kicked Out\" can haunt women's friendships\u003cbr\u003e ¿ how social media is reshaping communication and relationships\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, \u003ci\u003eYou're the Only One I Can Tell\u003c\/i\u003e gets to the heart of women's friendships-how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003ePraise for Deborah Tannen\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eYou're Wearing THAT?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Tannen doesn't just point out the pitfalls of the mother-daughter relationship, she also provides guidance for changing the conversations.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eSan Francisco Chronicle\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Tannen has a gifted ear for the meaning behind the words. She helps us hear what we are really saying.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eThe\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eBaltimore Sun\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"The effect of [Tannen's] anecdotes and analysis is to reassure her readers that they are not alone.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eThe Wall Street Journal\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"[This] book might help all of us open our eyes.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eChicago Sun-Times\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eYou Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Utterly fascinating . . . a classic in the field.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eSan Francisco Chronicle\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Refreshing and readable . . . vivid examples and lively prose.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eThe New York Times Book Review\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \"Tannen has a marvelous ear for the way real people express themselves, and a scientist's command of the inner structures of speech and human relationships.\"\u003cb\u003e-\u003ci\u003eLos Angeles Times\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e","brand":"Penguin Random House","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47114512630000,"sku":"2940169497861","price":20.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/7593\/9824\/files\/2940169497861_p0.jpg?v=1763684279","url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/2940169497861","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}