{"product_id":"9781453506554","title":"Satisfactions","description":"Links below   \u003cbr\u003e  will take you to the non-profit \u003cb\u003eBreak the Cycle!\u003c\/b\u003e Web site (formerly \"Stepfamily inFormation\"). Use your   \u003cbr\u003ebrowser's \"Back\" button to return to the Xlibris.com bookstore.  \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePremise\u003c\/b\u003e:   \u003cbr\u003e  From newborn infants to dying adults, we all communicate to reduce local discomforts - i.e. to \"fill current needs.\" Doing that promotes   \u003cbr\u003esatisfaction. Anything you do that causes a significant   \u003cbr\u003eemotional-spiritual-physical-mental change in another person can be called \u003ci\u003ecommunication\u003c\/i\u003e.   \u003cbr\u003eIt's impossible to \"not communicate\" with other people, for silence and inactivity cause reactions and presumed meanings.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e     \u003cbr\u003eThe quality of your life and key relationships depends largely on the effectiveness of the way you communicate - yet you probably   \u003cbr\u003edon't know what you need to know about this vital life skill. To reality check that, mull these five   \u003cbr\u003echallenges:   \u003cbr\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e1) Name\u003c\/b\u003e a learned skill that you rely on more often than    \u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003ecommunicating\u003c\/i\u003e to get your key needs met. Note that thinking is   \u003cbr\u003einternal communication.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e2) How do\u003c\/b\u003e you distinguish between effective and ineffective communication? If   \u003cbr\u003eyou're not sure, how can you tell if you're communicating effectively in   \u003cbr\u003eimportant\u003cb\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e   \u003cbr\u003e         \u003c\/b\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003esituations?\"   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e3) On a scale\u003c\/b\u003e of 1 (totally ineffective) to 10 (totally effective), generally how effective a communicator would you rate yourself in calm times __ and in conflicts __ recently?   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e4) Identify\u003c\/b\u003e the five most important people in your current life. From 1 to 10, how effective would you rate yourself in your communication with each of them in calm __ and conflictual __ times? How effective would each of them rate you?  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e5) \u003c\/b\u003eTake your time, and   \u003cbr\u003esee how well you do\u003cb\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003ewith this  \u003cbr\u003e  communication \u003cb\u003equiz\u003c\/b\u003e. Then return.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWould you like to improve your communication effectiveness with others and yourself?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSeven Essential Skills\u003c\/b\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThis unique guidebook\u003c\/b\u003e describes and illustrates seven vital communication skills that any motivated   \u003cbr\u003eperson can learn, with practice. They are:   \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e  \u003cli\u003eAwareness  \u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003eClear thinking,  \u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003eDigging down,  \u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003eEffective   \u003cbr\u003eassertion,  \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003eMetatalking (talking cooperatively about communication),  \u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003eEmpathic listening (listening with your heart), and...  \u003cbr\u003e          \u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cli\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003eWin-win   \u003cbr\u003eproblem-solving (conflict resolution).  \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e  \u003cp\u003eCan you describe each of these skills and when to use each one? Not one of my 1,000+ clients and students could. Our culture   \u003cbr\u003edoesn't value effective communications enough to teach us these skills yet - perhaps because most people don't know what they don't know about these skills and their great benefits.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003eThe skills are simple, learnable,   \u003cbr\u003eand effective. They help people fill their current personal and social needs. The skills are sequential, starting with awareness.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhy Read This Book?\u003c\/b\u003e   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThere are many  books, tapes, and programs claiming to teach effective communica-tion.  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eSatisfactions\u003c\/b\u003e is unique for six reasons:  \u003cbr\u003e  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eIt's based on\u003c\/b\u003e a well-researched \"inner-family\" theory of   \u003cbr\u003epersonality, and (b) the series of seven skills (above) that promote effective thinking and problem-solving.   \u003cbr\u003eCommunication effectiveness soars when your   \u003cbr\u003etrue Self guides your other subselves. The related volume   \u003cbr\u003eWho's Really Running Your Life? - free your Self from   \u003cbr\u003e        custody and guard your kids (Xlibris.com, 2010, 3rd ed.) describes how to achieve this.   \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThis book\u003c\/b\u003e proposes that effective communication happens when people (a) get current  \u003cbr\u003eprimary, vs. surface needs met, (b) in a way that leaves them feeling good about themselves, their partner\/s, and the process between them. I've never seen any other communication materials propose the skill of  \u003cbr\u003edigging down to identify primary needs as a requisite for effective communications; Another unique foundation of this book is...\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e  \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe keystone concepts\u003c\/b\u003e of   \u003cbr\u003e  \u003cbr\u003eR(espect) messages,   \u003cbr\u003eE(motion) levels, and   \u003cbr\u003e\"Awareness \"Bubbles.\" I've never seen these described together in 40+ years of research and teaching. If you   \u003cbr\u003ecan't describe the five messages we all decode from each other semi-consciously, you're probably unaware of how R-messages may degrade your most important communications.\u003c\/p\u003e  \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThis book\u003c\/b\u003e is one of a kind because it contains   \u003cbr\u003estatus checks (conceptual reviews and reality checks) and  \u003cbr\u003eWeb-link addresses to many resource articles, skill-practices, and worksheets in this Break the Cycle! site and others; and...  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eIt includes\u003c\/b\u003e (a) a 95-page communication and relationship   \u003cbr\u003eglossa\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Xlibris US","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47125537358064,"sku":"9781453506554","price":9.99,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/7593\/9824\/files\/9781453506554_p0.jpg?v=1763847812","url":"https:\/\/shop-qa.barnesandnoble.com\/products\/9781453506554","provider":"Barnes \u0026 Noble (DEV)","version":"1.0","type":"link"}