{"product_id":"9781456875060","title":"Who's Really Running Your Life? Fourth Edition: Free Your True Self from Custody,and Guard Your Kids","description":"   Links below will take you to the non-profit \u003cb\u003eBreak the Cycle!\u003c\/b\u003e Web site. Use your browser’s back button to return.  \u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePremise\u003c\/b\u003e - psychological \"wounding\" is epidemic in America because of an unseen inherited cycle of ineffective parenting and ignorance. This book describes the wounds, what they mean, and what to do about them.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis fourth edition (Feb. 2011) will introduce you to your inner family, and who leads it in calm and crisis times. If you don’t know who comprises your inner crew or who’s in charge of them, you may be living life as a hostage to a false self and not know it. If so, you’re probably living well below your potential, and may also be wounding kids in your life without meaning to. The rest of the book outlines an effective way to reduce any significant wounds, and live a calmer, more authentic, productive, satisfying life. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    Notice your reaction to these proposals and to the book´s title. I suspect you think “Well \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eI\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e am running my life!” Sure - but have you ever thought about who “I” is? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003ccenter\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e\u003cu\u003eReality check:\u003c\/u\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e Have you ever had experiences like these?\u003c\/center\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cblockquote\u003e • Blowing \u003ci\u003ehot and cold\u003c\/i\u003e about someone or something?\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Saying “\u003ci\u003eOn one hand,… and on the other…\u003c\/i\u003e”?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Obsessively second-guessing (doubting) an important decision you’ve made?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Having “discussions” or \"arguments\" with yourself inside your head?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • An “inner voice” ceaselessly berating you for being stupid, dumb, weird, or unlovable? \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Loved and hated someone at the same time?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Wanted to do something and simultaneously \u003ci\u003enot\u003c\/i\u003e wanted to do it?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Done something impulsive and later thought “\u003ci\u003eWhat got into me?\u003c\/i\u003e”\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Known people who seemed \u003ci\u003etwo-faced\u003c\/i\u003e, talked out of \u003ci\u003eboth sides of their mouth\u003c\/i\u003e, and “\u003ci\u003elike two different people\u003c\/i\u003e”?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Felt “young” when around an authority figure or perhaps a critical parent?\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e • Have you ever been described as having a \u003ci\u003eyellow\u003c\/i\u003e or \u003ci\u003emean\u003c\/i\u003e streak, a blue \u003ci\u003emood\u003c\/i\u003e a musical \u003ci\u003eside\u003c\/i\u003e, a \u003ci\u003esilver tongue\u003c\/i\u003e, or a \u003ci\u003eway\u003c\/i\u003e with kids? \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/blockquote\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    These are everyday signs of an invisible condition that shapes the lives of you and everyone you know. It’s based on a marvelous survival feature of our human neural system recently called \u003ci\u003emultiplicity\u003c\/i\u003e: our brain’s wired-in ability to respond to childhood environmental threat by fragmenting into regions with special abilities.  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    Using radiographic PET scans, we’re the first generation in history to be able to see these regions operating concurrently. The unitary experience of “\u003ci\u003eI see my child laugh\u003c\/i\u003e” involves many regions of your brain at once without your knowing it. So does everything you do!  \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eMain Ideas\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e     This book results from my professionally studying and practicing inner family therapy (\"parts work\") since 1992. It describes what I’ve come to believe without question about average women and men like you: \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    Normal people have personalities that are composed of a group of \u003ci\u003esubselves\u003c\/i\u003e or \u003ci\u003eparts\u003c\/i\u003e, like members of an orchestra or athletic team. Each subself has it’s own talent or gift, it’s own values, goals, and limitations. Our inner families of subselves can range from harmonious to chaotic in calm and crisis times. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cbr\u003e    The nature of our subselves and the relationships among them are determined in the first several years of life of average kids. 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