Indefatigably Incessantly Momentarily Erect (The Trials of Tony)

Written by Jane Sturgis After reading this book, it is quite evident that life is full of many trials and tribulations. This book describes the journey of life that Tony has taken. This book is based on truths, and by reading this you can gain some insights on how people change. There is nothing worse than hearing that people can't change, because this simply is not true. Someone once asked me, "Who ever said life was fair?" He questioned why people are constantly whining about things not being fair. In essence, he was telling me that we must take life's journey in stride. No one ever said that that journey would be easy. And we have choices to make throughout that journey. And much of our destiny is based on those choices. And The Trials of Tony shows you that no road is perfect, and that many times things happen for a reason, we just may not know what that reason may be at the time. Life can offer much pain, emptiness and despair; but it can also offer things of grandeur you'd never imagine! Such as the good friends that help you get through the bad times. The friends you don't know what your life would be like had they never entered. For most of Tony's life he was in depression, but most adult children of alcoholics are; the problem is no one ever knows it until hitting that final wall. A realization that how we are managing our life just isn't working. Most of it relating to being raised in a dysfunctional family; a family that didn't teach self-esteem, good boundaries, or positive forms of communicating your needs. Social skills needed to survive in an adult world. Tony's wall came later in his 20's. Earlier than most ACA's; usually that happens in your late 30's to early 40's. By now he has a son and was divorced. After more pain in his life, and just before finishing out his tour with the U.S. Navy, God decided Tony needed to meet Rhonda (an Eskimo at a liquor store). This was something called GRACE. For no apparent reason, someone comes into your life for a brief innocent moment, but changes your entire outlook. It was at this time he learned sometimes you have to let go and take a chance on people and things. Why not try first, rather than waiting for it to be earned? Slowly, as he began working on himself, and focusing on standing on his own legs, rather than looking for someone else to make him feel loved, he found you must "Let Go and Let God." A difficult concept to implement after looking for happiness in others for nearly 30 years. He knowingly began to work on the concept of loving who you are first, because he knew by doing this he would enable himself to experience true love with another; all after much self-help and therapy. There is nothing worse than hearing that people can't change. That simply is not true. Read this book and see. Tony's poetry depicts life as a teenager, to a young man in love, to being a father. His poetry explains life's journey into manhood and fatherhood. Yes, our journey in life can be difficult, but if you walk your path, and let someone else walk his or her path next to yours, you can still walk together. To do this, you must do what you like best, and not worry about the rest. Tony's writing comes from the heart. If you get one thing from this book, may it be that throughout this journey in life, if you implement the Serenity prayer, you will reap far more happiness than you ever imagined.