Improving Your Marriage to Newlyweds Again

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................................... 4
WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL? ................................................................................................................. 6
IS YOUR MARRIAGE IN DANGER? ....................................................................................................12
STARTING DOWN THE ROAD TOWARDS ROMANCE .................................................................15
PAVING THE ROAD TO ROMANCE ....................................................................................................19
THINKING FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE ..........................................................................................23
LIVING FOR YOUR MARRIAGE ...........................................................................................................25
Get back in touch with each other. In the beginning, couples often touch each other: holding hands, stroking hair, hugging, putting their arms around each other. When romance falls away from a marriage, often the only times people touch is when they want sex. This can make your partner feel used and unloved. ..............................................................................................................................................................27
Remember that compliments are free. When you are dating, chances are that the compliments were free-flowing. After you’ve been married awhile, the compliments start to go away. ..................................................................................................28
EVEN MORE WAYS TO RE-CONNECT ...............................................................................................33
ADVICE FOR THE ROMANTICALLY CHALLENGED .......................................................................37
ROMANTIC THINGS YOU CAN DO ....................................................................................................39
FIGHTING FAIR .......................................................................................................................................43
HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO................................................................................................................45
GREAT WAYS TO SPOIL YOUR SPOUSE .........................................................................................47
MASSAGES CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCE! ....................................................................................51
CONCLUSION ...........................................................................................................................................60
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Remember back to your wedding day. I’m not talking about just the ceremony and reception. I want you to remember how you felt. Think back to looking into the eyes of your intended spouse and how happy you were. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that much.
Because this man or woman made you feel so special. Maybe your new husband was the most romantic guy you had ever met. Maybe your new wife was one of the most incredible people you had ever met. Both of you knew that this was a marriage that would work. Your life would always be as magical as it was in the very beginning.
You spent the first few months of your life settling in as a married couple. Perhaps you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other and made those around you roll their eyes as they watched your PDA with envy. But you didn’t care – you were in love!
And then, reality sets in. You start to notice little things about your true love that drive you crazy. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can for awhile. But then, you start to pull away just a little bit. You still love him or her, but it’s just not the same.
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You start to take each other for granted. After all, you’re married – that’s part of married life, isn’t it? Then you wake up one morning and look over at your love. You wonder what happened to that fire – that amazing desire that couldn’t be controlled. Why don’t you feel like you did on your honeymoon?
Romance dies, that's a fact, right? When you find the love of your life, you'll both settle into a daily routine of financial, household, and child-rearing responsibilities, forgetting you are a couple, right? Romance will only last through the initial crush of the relationship. After that you and your partner will start taking each other for granted, right?
It does not have to be this way. There are many relationships where romance is alive and well. Open up your local paper and look for the anniversary announcements. It can actually be very motivating to see those ...