There Is No Such Thing As A Painless Divorce So Stop and Save Your Marriage!

Before I get into this let me tell you a story of the author. I was married in 1968. He was very emotionally, verbally and physically abusive male. I had no choice to marry as my father died and my mother went off the deep end and some kind of foster care or the streets did not sound good. I was 18.
Abuse would occur over anything. If I forgot to put the catsup on the table if we had chili, he would take all the food and dishes and throw them against the wall. Then tell me I had 10 minutes to make another meal. I had to feed us on 20.00 a week even after having 2 boys 2 years apart. I could not drive till I learned how to take a car engine apart and put it together. I did. He busted a ear drum, many conclusions, pool sticks across my knee caps, you get the picture. I was raised catholic. NO divorce. In that time there was no help for women. No shelters. He threatened my family and anyone he knew if they interfered he would get them. So many women back then felt stuck. And forget calling the cops. They would try to smooth things over and when they left you got it worse. He would punish the boys. My youngest he would take a hammer handle and hit him on the head. I spent many nights taking splinters out. My oldest got slammed against the wall a lot. He would make them go without dinner and keep them in their room. One day, they were 6 and 8 I found them with a clothes basket of toys going out the window to run away. That was my breaking point. The next day while he was asleep I threw what I could in the car with the kids and left California and headed east. Never looked back. That was in 79. It took me 2 years to get enough courage to divorce. There are some cases that yes divorce is necessary. But now days it is to easy. People do it because they get bored with someone, or cheating, or think the grass is greener on the other side. Believe me I have met a lot of people that you still have to mow the yard so to speak. I remarried in 2000. Not perfect, has faults but so do I. And we make it work. He is loving and kind. We are not the Perfect couple but happy and love each other. We work and talk things thru. There is no PERFECT marriage. I have been a in home care nurse for 30 years and many couples have been married for 60, 70 years. I learned a lot from them.