Instant Self Improvement

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we
always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than
not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us
- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger
nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

One key to self-improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find
someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics
you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I
always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”,“Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will
obviously know that you are interested in the process of self-improvement. Lend
her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t
exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And
in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also
help her improve her self.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought
of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self
is the first step to self-improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to
others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

Self-improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole
world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and
contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel
contented and happy.