Who Pulled the Plug on my Fantasies...and how to find contentment.

Contentment and happiness are highly valued but only a few attain and sustain them. The book explores what prevents people from achieving both in a world that presents great challenges. It explains how our conscious fantasies and largely unconscious phantasies can make lived experience seem painful, dull or difficult. The size of the gap between our beliefs about how things "should, "ought" and "must" be and our actual lives is the measure of our misery or reasonable contentment. The greater the gap, the greater is our suffering. The book explores fantasies and phantasies in important areas of life and suggests ways to access unconscious and disabling beliefs and capitalize on the helpful ones. Guidelines are given for narrowing the gap between our hopes, dreams and expectations, and actual life, and, in so doing, gaining a sense that life can be puzzling but satisfying