Made to Lead: Finding a Virtuous Wife in Sodom

Marriage is a risky proposition for today's Western man and among the most debilitating decisions a man can make in life is to marry poorly. The man who marries poorly unknowingly but voluntarily enters divorce slavery the very moment he exchanges vows. But even in today's divorce-ravaged culture, this hell on earth can be easily avoided, for there are time-tested ways for the Christian man to attract quality women, to separate the wheat from the chaff, accurately discerning if a woman of interest might make for a good wife. The man who makes crucial marital decisions flippantly or with a mind addled by sexual desire forgets that he won't be having sex with his ex-wife, divorce leaving him without moral sexual expression, a judge standing in for him as the leader of his broken family.

You don't have to abandon who you are to attract women; however, there is nothing wrong with examining what makes men successful, learning from them, and then genuinely working to make yourself into a more successful man, a more attractive man, a leader of men. After all, an ambitious man will strive to become the best he can be in a favored endeavor by reading, practicing, learning, and doing. Why should any aspect of life, particularly one as important as marriage, be off-limits to a man's best efforts? None should. Yet men will spend years refining their professional skills and abilities, or even their hobbies, only to walk into the minefield of marriage with little training or forethought, often with ideas which stand in stark contrast to observable reality. One doesn't have to be a jerk to get the girl, but it's certainly to a man's great benefit to genuinely understand what many women find attractive in jerks.

The man who approaches marriage with the care that it deserves will be rewarded with a better marriage, a higher probability of a lifetime marriage, a much higher chance of healthy, happy children, and more regular sex. This is not a bad list. This controversial book provides straight talk that will greatly help a man marry well, a crucial life decision with eternal consequences.