Love Letters to a Unicorn: A book about love, kink, bdsm, and non-monogamy

Love Letters to a Unicorn explores the multifaceted dimensions of kink life. While a few kinky sex practices have become popular to integrate into mainstream discussions and writings about sex, the deeper and more significant reasons to practice kink have not been broached. Love Letters brings the reader into the life of a submissive. The essays discuss kinky practices such as negotiation, consent, boundaries and limits, safe words, and continuing education about sex.

The author is a practicing submissive who has enjoyed kink for more than two decades. She reveals why kink is a true manifestation of feminist values, how it could end rape culture, help stabilize long-term relationships and how getting tied up and whipped helps ground her. Blanton advocates that everyone, regardless of what they actually do in bed, adopt certain kinky values and practices. She has started to campaign for the adoption of a national safe word and rewriting sex ed curriculum to included kinky values.

Love Letters is not just theoretical. Blanton includes a number of love letters to her primary partner who is not actively identified with the kink community. The letters, including poems and porn, were written during the first eighteen months of her relationship with the unicorn. Using her relationship with a non-kink-identified man to illustrate the benefits of kink values for all people, Blanton reveals how her kink practices have improved her relationship with the unicorn.

Rebecca E. Blanton is an academic and policy researcher by training. She has previously written extensively about women veterans, the criminal justice system, and charter school oversight. She has taught at several New York City universities and headed the California Commission on the Status of Women and Girls. Love Letters is her first non-policy/non-academic publication.